Do you ever feel like life is passing by, and you’re just watching from the sidelines? I know the feeling. After years of putting everyone else first and running on autopilot, I woke up one day with a sharp clarity — I wasn’t living my life for myself. And that had to change.
In this post, I’m diving into the moment I realised that clarity is the spark for true change. I’m sharing the small steps I’ve started taking to reclaim my happiness, and, hopefully, you’ll find a spark here to start doing the same. I’ve finally come up with a plan. Not exactly a giant leap for mankind, but a small, necessary step toward taking back control of my life.
The challenge now? Sticking to it. Breaking big tasks into manageable steps sounds simple, but for a seasoned procrastinator, it’s anything but. It’s just not as easy as it sounds, and it doesn’t always go as planned.
Journaling
Recognising all the excuses I make is essential, and journaling them is key to breaking free. I have to see these patterns clearly to stop them, and in a way, writing these blog posts is already part of that process.
So, at times, you’ll be listening to me organise my thoughts—some of it random, some of it nonsensical, but all of it necessary for me! Remember, I’m trying to do this one small step at a time!
Change can feel daunting, especially as we get older. But in my 60s, I know it’s crucial to embrace change if I want to unlock my full potential. After all, I’m running out of time.
Reflecting on the First Post
After finishing my first blog post, I read it back and thought, “Wow, I sound so brow beaten.” I almost questioned publishing it altogether—wondering if sharing this was helpful or just overexposing myself.
Back and forth, sanity and self-doubt. But this kind of negative head chatter is exactly what I need to quiet down. It stalls me, drags me backward, and leaves me feeling awful. Time to shut it down and keep moving forward.
Related reading: https://nomoreexcuseswithkaz.com/10-procrastination-busting-tips-for-women-over-60/
Sometimes the truth needs to be spoken — not for anyone else, but for me, even if it is really raw.
Today, I’m feeling low again, but I know this won’t last. Change is on the horizon—big changes. And for once, I can see exactly what they are. I have clarity, and more importantly, the courage to take action.
Why Am I Here?
For so long, I’ve asked myself, “What am I doing here?”
Today, for the first time, I can answer that without needing to reason or justify it. I want to live a bigger, more joyful life. I want happiness, laughter, and love — and now I know how to get it.
If sharing my journey helps just one other woman break free from the burden of trying to be everything for everyone, then I’ve served a purpose. And I think that’s a good enough reason to be here.
Step by Step
I understand now why I had to withdraw from the noise of the world.
When you’re constantly listening to the words of others, their voices start to sound like your truth — but they’re not. I’ve always had my own truth, and I’m ready to live it.
Step by step, I’m making changes to my life and the people in it. I’m staying real with myself, and I feel liberated by the clarity of knowing what I want.
I’m not going to tell anyone about my plans — only you. But I feel lighter, more energised, and ready to take action.
Thanks Rachel Coyne on Unsplash.
Taking Inspired Action
So what’s my first action going to be? I’m going to take inspired action. Procrastination has no place here. When inspiration hits, I’m moving, and I’m using the tool that’s becoming a game-changer for me: Mel Robbins’ 5-4-3-2-1, GO! The 5 second rule
Related Viewing: https://youtu.be/g9tG_Mrj90M?si=mqBrhJmIrpxf0qAJ
So here it is: step number one.
Off My A*se
So, 5,4,3,2,1 Go, is the way I’m getting myself out of this funk.
I want to tell you exactly what I’m doing. Or not doing…
I skipped my yoga practise today, and I’m sitting in my dressing gown at the laptop writing this post. That’s the inspired bit. But, I need to simply get into the shower and not crawl back into bed.
The 5 second rule is going to help me do that. Today, that’s all I can do. The yoga will be here tomorrow, and I’m not allowing overthinking or overwhelm to cloud my judgment.
I need to be happy with what I can do today and feel grateful for the little things—the improvements where I’m not operating from a ‘should‘ or like a robot going through the motions.
Where I’m truly satisfied with doing the little important things to me first. So today, it’s my shower!
I’m finding clarity in any way I can. One small step at a time. 5,4,3,2,1, Go!
Seeya, I’m busy for now taking one small step at a time. Be back soon
With hope
Kaz 🙂